Your Second Caregiver Responsibility: Take Care of Yourself!

As director of memory care programs at Charles E. Smith Life Communities, I assist in developing stimulating programming for residents living with memory care issues. Recently, I was chatting with the family member of one of these residents and suddenly refocused the conversation to the gentleman’s own wellbeing by asking, “So what are you doing for yourself today?”

He scratched his head and had difficulty coming up with a quick answer. Why? Well, he had never considered himself in the equation of care. Finally he replied that he was not coming back that evening and in fact had just decided to decrease his visits to mornings only.

We started to discuss his typical day. Every morning and afternoon he attends synagogue services. He then tries to arrive at our residence around 9 a.m. to be with his wife; he stays to have lunch with her and finally leaves around 1 p.m. Back at his home, he attends to personal affairs. That’s it. As far as doing anything for himself that might be fun, interesting, stimulating, or nourishing to body and soul—all in an effort to relieve stress and prevent caregiver burnout, he has nothing on the schedule.

If this describes your life as a caregiver, there’s abundant practical advice out there to help you help yourself. To start the ball rolling, go to the Mayo Clinic website to read “Caregiver stress: Tips for taking care of yourself.” http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/caregiver-stress/MY01231.